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How to Give Unconditional Love
Unconditional love is given without any expectations,
limitations or any other definitions. In other words when you
love someone unconditionally you do so without expectations
that the sentiment will be returned, without placing
restrictions or conditions under which the love will be
expressed and without establishing defining parameters for
when, where or why the love is felt or expressed. There are
many examples of relationships where the love is unconditional.
The love between romantic partners, parent and child, siblings
and even friends can all be examples of unconditional love. The
most important factors of unconditional love are that it is
completely free of restrictions or expectations.
In giving unconditional love, it is important that you have
no expectations of reciprocation. You offer your love freely
and do not demand that the feeling be returned. Unconditional
love is about you and your feelings and does not involve trying
to create the same feelings in another person. While you may
hope and wish that the feeling is returned, truly unconditional
love does not hold any expectations that a mutual feeling
exists. If you hold the expectation that your love for the
other person is going to eventually be reciprocated and your
love endures based on this expectation then it is not truly
unconditional love. One example of unconditional love without
any expectations is the love between a parent and child. A
parent may love their child unconditionally and while the
feeling may be reciprocated by the child, the parent’s love
will endure regardless of how the child feels. Your
unconditional love exists even if the other person does not
have reciprocal feelings towards you or any intentions of ever
having such feelings.
Unconditional love also exists without any restrictions or
limitations under which the feeling will remain. Truly
unconditional love endures any transgression imaginable. When
you give your unconditional love, you do so knowing that the
actions or words of the other person will not result in this
loving feeling being revoked. Even intentional acts meant to
hurt you are overlooked when they are inflicted by someone with
whom you have an unconditional love. Also, unconditional love
is not used to attempt to control the actions of another.
Telling someone that they will lose your love if they do things
you do not approve of is not unconditional love. Romantic
partners often have a feeling of unconditional love. When this
exists in the relationship, neither partner uses their love to
control the other or threatens to revoke the love if their
demands are not met.
Truly unconditional love is given without any defining
parameters. When unconditional love is given, it is done so
without the understanding that the love will only endure as
long as certain conditions exist. Unconditional love exists
without thought of setting definitions or other limitations on
the love surviving. Siblings are good examples of unconditional
love that exists without any definitions. While siblings may
fight throughout their lifetime there is a bond that is present
always and is never challenged. Siblings may become angry with
each other but their unconditional love transcends all
boundaries and survives through countless arguments and
misunderstandings.
Those who have an unconditional love for another always want
the best for the one they love and allow them to be free to
seek what will truly make them happy. Unconditional love
involves wanting the best for the person you love and
understanding that they need to be free and make their own
choices to achieve this level of happiness. While you may
believe that you know what is best for your loved one, it’s
important to let them learn things on their own and pursue
opportunities and experiences that they believe will make them
happy. They may end up making wrong choices but if you love
them unconditionally you will always be there for them and will
not judge their actions.
Unconditional love is truly free of any expectations,
limitations or definitions. This is a love that holds your
loved ones best interests and happiness above all other things
including your own happiness. When you offer your love
unconditionally it is important to realize that you have no
right to expect that your feelings will be returned or that
your loved one will act and speak according to guidelines you
set forth.
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